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How To Speak Polite And Diplomatic English? 10 English Phrases That Sound Rude! Learn Polite English

How To Speak Polite And Diplomatic English? 10 English Phrases That Sound Rude! Learn Polite English

Hi everyone, my name is Hridhaan, I welcome
you today on this very interesting lesson on Let’s Talk. In today’s lesson we are going
to talk about certain ways in which you can tailor the way you speak in English, you can
change the way you speak in English and sound more polite and diplomatic so that you can
get, you can communicate the message and also get your work done. So what are we waiting
for, let’s stop thinking and start working… The first sentence that we have on the board
is, “that’s a bad idea”. Now if you say the sentence straight ‘that’s a bad idea’,
it sounds a little rude, because it is abrupt and it is quite straightforward. Now in today’s
class we are not talking about straight forward, it is a better idea we are not debating on
that, we are talking about how to be polite, now how can we say this sentence that’s a
bad idea in a polite language, well let’s have a look at it, instead of directly saying
that’s a bad idea, it is a good idea to tell the person that I am not saying that it is
a bad idea, I’m just saying that you can think about it in a better way, so that you can
come up with a better idea basically. So saying directly ‘that’s a bad idea’ would not
be right, and saying I think it can be said in a better off way is something that you
can go ahead with. And now let’s have a look at the second one in the list of impolite
phrases, “come here”. Come here is more like an imperative in English language, ‘imperative’
means it’s like an order, if I say come here to my friend it sounds quite rude, for example,
“come here Rahul”, it’s quite rude how can we say this politely and most importantly
how can we make a better sense out of this phrase? I have added two magical words to
the rephrased version of this phrase. I have added ‘could’ and I have added ‘please’.
‘Could’ and ‘please’. Does do incredible magic in the way you speak English ‘could’
is basically used for requests in English and ‘please’ is a very, very polite word
in English that we should use all the time whenever we want to sound sweet, polite and
most importantly respectful, so ‘come here’ can as well change to ‘could you be here
please?’. The next one in the list of impolite phrases is, “I hate this colour” hate
is a very, very strong word in English language and we should try to do away with this word
as much as possible. There are a lot of other alternatives that you can use in place of
this word and we can say this like this, ‘I am not sure about this colour’… now the
moment you say, ‘I am not sure’ you’re communicating to the person that simply you
do not like this colour. The moment you say this the person easily understands that you
basically are trying to politely disagree and thus, it is a better idea to not use the
word ‘I hate’ but use ‘I am not sure’ in replacement of that’ I’m not sure about
this colour’. You can also say ‘I dislike this colour’ but again ‘dislike’ turns
a little negative and straight forward, so it is always a good idea to say, ‘I’m not
sure about this colour’. The next one is, “leave me alone”. ‘Leave me alone’
is more like again an imperative like ‘come here’ how can we say this politely? Using
this… ‘Leave me alone’ can as well be said in a very polite way, “I would like
to be with myself”. ‘Would’, ‘could’ these are words that people generally use
and we must always use whenever we want to communicate a polite message, because they
all come in the family of polite words and thus whenever you want to say, ‘leave me
alone’, it’s a better idea that you use, ‘would’ and communicate, “I would like
to be with myself for some time please”. So if you are let’s say, not happy with something
and you want to be just with yourself, it’s a good idea to use this phrase, the next one
in the list of how to be polite is, “this is bad”. Imagine, you go to a store and
you’re talking to the shop assistant, the executive in the shop and you say, “No,
this is bad, this t-shirt is not good, show me a different one…” It is a very rude
language. People do not realize it and that is why they translate these messages when
they communicate, the same messages, same intonation when they speak at the workplace
as well and so it is a good idea do not speak like that, the better thing is, ‘this is
bad’, ‘this is bad’… “this can be better” or “this could have been better”,
‘could have been better…’ So instead of saying directly ‘this is bad’, it’s
a good idea to say ‘this can be better’ or ‘this could have been better’. “No”,
immediately saying ‘no’, for example I say, ‘would you like to have some water?’
and I say, ‘no.’ how can we correct and rectify this phrase? By just saying, ‘thank
you’ again is one very interesting and sweet phrase that you can add in your vocabulary
to make it sound polite and very, very sweet. So instead of saying ‘no’ for example,
I don’t want to do this, ‘would you like to have some water?’ The person says, ‘no’,
instead of saying that, you can say “no, thank you.” You’re basically saying that,
I am fine without it thank you very much. The next one in the list is, “call me”,
same imperative. You’re just, you’re speaking as if you’re ordering something. The moment
you say, “please contact me” everything changes. Now let’s look at ‘contact me’
as well, if you say ‘contact me’ again very rude. The moment you say, ‘please contact
me’ the language becomes really professional, sweet and polite. So do use that. “You are
not confident”, imagine you’re giving feedback, you’re a teacher or let’s say you’re a parent
who’s giving feedback to your child, would you say, “you’re not confident”, the very
intonation and the very sense of the word ‘not’ is not positive, it’s negative.
How can we say the sentence in a positive manner but still convey the same meaning?
Using this… ‘You are not confident’ can as well be said as, “you can try to
be more confident”, one more time, ‘you can try to be more confident’, do you know
what is the magic? The magic is do not use ‘not’ in your sentence ever, just say
the same message in a positive way, as if you’re giving a constructive sort, form or
feedback to the person that you’re trying to communicate to. So remove ‘not’ and
add a positive constructive feedback to your message. Next one, “can I take your pen?”
You’re asking somebody, ‘can I take your pen?’ What is wrong in that everybody asks
us…? But the very connotation and meaning of the word ‘can’ is capability. Imagine
if the pen is here and it is somebody else’s pen and I say, “can I take the pen” it
is my capability, ability I can definitely do that, I can do that, I have a hand and
I can do the motion and take the pen, so what is wrong in that? It is not a request, it
is an ability, it is my ability and of course I can do that because I’ve got a hand and
I can move it, so instead of saying this, you could say, “could I take your pen?”
‘Could I take your pen’ and again ‘take’ is a word that can as well be replaced by
another word and that is ‘borrow’. ‘Take’, has the sense that you’re taking it forever,
but you’re not doing that, ‘borrow’ is something that you’re taking for a short period
of time. So you can say ‘borrow’. “Could I borrow your pen?” The second one in the
list is, “tell me when you are free”, what is wrong with, tell me when you’re free?
It is again quite similar to ‘call me’, ‘tell me when you’re free’, imperative,
order… how can we correct that? “Please do let me know as you are available”, one
more time, ‘please do let me know as you are available’. Look at the way I have changed,
‘tell me’, ‘tell me’ has been replaced with ‘please do let me know’, ‘when
you are free’ has been changed with ‘as you get the time’ or ‘as you are available’.
So please try using it in the same sense. And the last one in the list is, “I want
water” imagine you come to your own home and you say, “I want water” and if you
speak in English to your sibling or to your parents, what is wrong with, ‘I want water’,
it is again quite more like an order, ‘I want water’, how can this be corrected?
We can say, “can I have some water?” If you are at your home, this is polite, but
if you are at somebody else’s home you can say, “could I have some water?” one more
time, please repeat after me, “could I have some water?” and if you want to add ‘please’
to it, you can in a very formal setting. So there are certain words again that I’d like
to highlight, ‘would’, ‘could’, ‘thank you’, ‘please’… these words add a
lot of value when you speak in English, when you try to be polite and sweet and at the
same time diplomatic. So whenever you’re speaking in the future about any of this, about any
of the ideas that we have spoken about today, please use the ones in black towards your
right hand side. Have a great day ahead, thank you for watching my video and if you liked
it, please to subscribe and do let me know in the comments what lessons you would like
to study next. Thank you very much and have a great day ahead.

70 comments on “How To Speak Polite And Diplomatic English? 10 English Phrases That Sound Rude! Learn Polite English

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  2. Sir, I have a doubtful phrase, that is; "With a direction to". Sir, what does the phrase "With a direction to" mean ? Please try to make me understand about it by means of some particular examples. I hope you will try to reply as soon as possible. I will be looking forward to your reply.

  3. Learn English with Let's Talk – Free English Lessons. Hey, Have you heard EDM? I've subbed to you, so Id appreciate if you'd watch my videos.

  4. Handsome teacher with great lesson, beautifully pronounced each and every word that's the most important point, hridhaan sir is more classy than some bollywood celebrities…..from nepal.

  5. Oh my gosh! How can someone be so physically attractive? This is totally out of context for this video but this man is ridiculously handsome. This guy just made my day. Thank you 😍💜

  6. My favourite teacher has come. I am extremely happy to see him again. Hridhaan friend, please make a video on one word substituition.

  7. I think it can be better though
    Could you be here please
    I am not sure about this colour
    I would like to be with myself
    This could have been better
    No thanks
    Please contact me
    You can try to be more confident
    Could I take your pen
    Could I borrow your phone
    Please do let me know as you are avt
    Could I have some water

  8. Hi sir, I do have some doubt. When we write our childhood memories in which tense we should use past or present.

  9. Hey ! I have a question..

    What to use after the word "cater" ? I have noticed people using "cater for" & "cater to" what is the difference between them ??

  10. My Suggestion for coming up videos is
    Teach Tenses and Grammar….
    already there but could you please do for me another version

  11. Hridhan, I am looking forward to the day when your really great lesson will be on PowerPoint presentation☆
    Thank you Hope I've not been rude☆

  12. NYC replacements…bt when one is being angry…I am nt sure,would use these we lost our senses at that state I mean being upset or furious..

  13. Let's keep brainstorming.
    Could you come here, please?
    I don't really care for that color.
    I'd prefer to be by myself right now.
    Do you have something different? This isn't my style.
    No, thank you.
    Please call me.
    Here are some ways to appear more confident.
    May I borrow your pen? Or Do you mind if I borrow your pen?
    Please let me know when you are available.
    May I have some water, please?

    Just a few modifications from a native English speaker from the United States. 😊

  14. My brother to me- Come here!

    Me- Could you be more polite, please?

    My Brother- Bring your ass here right now dammit!

    Me- 😐😐😐😐😐

  15. Thanks Hridhaan! It was an amazing lesson.
    Could you also do a video on correct usage of words such as regard & regards, then and than, among others… as these are commonly made mistakes..

  16. X Could you be here, please?
    Correction: Could you come here, please?
    “Please come” VS. “Please be” are quite challenging for non-native speakers to use correctly. Simply put, “to be” is a state of being and “to come” is an action. It’s like the difference of “to wear” and “to put on” clothes.

    The phrase, “Could you be here?” could be used if there is a meeting that will take place in the future and in the same location. For example, “Excuse me, Mr. Jones. Our business partner from Learnex will present a new product idea next Tuesday after our regular staff meeting. I know you usually have your break then but could you be here, please?

  17. Dear Sir, it has been a marvellous lesson. I am very much obliged.

    P.S: I was wondering if I might dare to ask you your Instagram address.

  18. It's look like everyone only see him rather then his lesson because he is damm handsome . isn't it ?

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